Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Searching for Peace with in

JANUARY 1st 2009...

This is the beginning to a NEW year. One far better than the past years... I'm on a 50/50 start right now. For starters... I'm home, I'm not out partying.... Partying... something I was pretty heavy into... along with the drinking.... though I never touched the drugs that surrounded me... I'm sure I drank the equivalent to the "high." I'm sitting here holding back tears.... This is the first official year that we'll all have to go through without Josh. The way I feel right now... I cannot even begin to explain.... I'm Happy for me... because I've decided to let go of burdens and move forth in life... but I feel so much pain knowing that I can't even keep it together. I knew this was going to take more time... and I'm dealing, but OMG as I watched the ball drop Josh was suddenly on my mind, and it was like somebody was ripping my heart out. I felt like I watched years flash before me and time leave me in the dust. It wasn't supposed to be like this... Not Josh... he was supposed to be here... we were supposed to get older, and be in each others weddings, and have kids that would someday play together and torment eachother like we did.... in my heart, I know he did this to himself... no matter how the family tries to cover it up... I know the truth... He spent so long searching for himself.... and at the service, all I remember is the pastor saying that he was gone because he finally found himself, and in finding that peace it was his time to go home.... I want to believe that so badly.... but I dont know.... I get so upset with myself because I find myself questioning God... if he really exists, and how could he do this? Wasn't there a way to save him and keep him here? I know I'm being selfish... I know, but I would give anything to bring him back or to go back in time and help him.

I try to remember that God, gave Josh an extra year with us after his car accident. That even with all the brain trauma... and memory loss that he was exactly who I remembered... and over those last 6-8 months of his life... him and I talked literally almost everyday. He knew so much about me, and it kills me, because when we swore to secrecy the stuff we knew about each other... he literally took it to the grave with him. The Pastor at the service said... "if God came and said that he was going to give u a gift, but u could only have that gift for 23 years, would you take it?" and my answer is yes.... but is this what was supposed to happen when you don't want to give it back? You end up like me?

I'm so torn in how I feel. I'm so happy for me finally finding a way out of the drama, and yet i'm still so devestated and grieving.... this is such a terrible feeling!

"Love knows not its own depth, until the hour of seperation..."

I'm going to go to sleep.... HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL!!

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Bringing in the New Year...

I can say that over the year + time that it has taken me to get over Mike... I have accumulated a lot of JUNK and lost my organizational skills. I gave up on that all together. I decided that to bring in the New Year... I needed a new make over... not just with my appearance and that, but in my living quarters as well! I went to Wal-mart today... and picked out some paint... I decided to start a small project... and paint my bathroom. The tiling in it is pink... I dont know why, that's just what was here when my family and I moved in... It's hard to really match colors with pink... so I decided to get creative. My bathroom is going to be pink, black and white... I bought some white paint and some black paint.... I'm going to put black stripes on the walls... I don't know we'll see how it turns out. It won't be extreme... but it will definitely modernize the bathroom. It's only a half bath off my room... so it's not a huge space to work on. I cleaned it out and painted the walls white, tomorrow will be the black stripes... when the white is dry... Even with the fresh white paint on the walls, it really brightened up the bathroom. I'm excited!!

I'm deciding what to do with my bedroom. It is a mess, I won't even lie! I watch this show called "Clean House" on the style channel... and my room isn't quite that bad, but I've watched it enough to realize that I too use clutter to deal with my emotional state. I use the clutter as a copeing machanism. It's depressing... So it's time for a fresh start! Right now my room, is a very pale lavendar color... I'm deciding what to do with it... I want something totally out of the ordinary for me... I've always been one of those really girly girls where everything is pink and purple. I remember being younger and picking out the paint for my room when i was about six or seven and it was literally the color of pepto bismol... not to mention I had dancing ballerina bears as a border around the I was thinking about doing my room a pretty teal color... sort of serene and tranquil.... I don't know... the "princess" part of me might get the best of me and I may end up with a different shade of purple or another pepto bismol pink

One door closes, and another will open, and its time to get my life cleaned up. I want a fresh start into the new year. Mind, Body, and Soul... oh and space as well! lol

Well, I rented This Christmas... that I have been dying to see since forever but never made it to the movies last year to see it and every time i go to the video store its all rented... so I finally got it... and I'm going to watch it! That and this other movie called the women... So... y'all have a good night!

Is this really what it has come to?

Hmm... where to start... "fat white bitch" or should I back it up?

Ok, I'll start from the beginning... I work with this guy and his "girlfriend" or at least that's what she likes to call herself.... We all work at Applebees. Marcus is cool, funny... we talk sometimes at work..but mostly through text messages... I'm a flirty type of person.. I can't help it... it's how I am... and the lord knows Marcus isn't afraid to flirt or touch and feel on people right in front his "girl" ... she blames the other girl? Ok, so something funny is going on here... So she goes through his phone and sees text messages... which really aren't about anything... and calls me...

Now... I knew it was her calling me, because 1... Marcus never calls me... if he wants to talk, he'll text me. That is the basis of our communication.

I answer the phone and say "hello"...

she says "Arriel, its Brittany"

I reply " I figured"

Then she says "Well, I'm calling because I was going through Marcus's phone and saw text messages from you.... Why do you continue to talk to him when you know he's mine"

(I know I probably pissed her off, but...) I said "Brittany, if he was yours like he claim he is, you wouldn't need to go through his phone, and you wouldn't be calling me right now...besides their just text messages that mean nothing"

She was quiet... and hung up on me...

YES! I called back because you don't call someone and expect a fight or reaction out of them, and when you don't get it you hang up!! So I left Marcus a voicemail and

I said "Hi, this is Arriel, I'm just returning Brittany's call... I don't know if my phone lost the signal or if she got mad and hung up... but I just wanted to make sure she was through and said all she needed to... Ok, well I'll ttyl"

I don't think I was rude in anyway, besides... after I left the voicemail, Marcus said he was in the shower and got out and she was gone... and all he saw on his phone was a call to me, and a voicemail from me....

I'm not mad... I don't care... I didn't care last night... There is nothing going on between him and I... just a little bit of flirting, but mostly we talk about everyday stuff and occassionally Marcus gets personal... he'll tell me how hes a cheater and wants to fix it and etc. Brittany and him aren't together... he says he tells her, but she tries to hard.... It started off with them just sleeping together, and she wanted more... she thought she was going to change him... PLEASE! I thought If I should colin love, and what'd I'd do for him... I thought I could change him too! So I have been there I have don't that... I'm not calling her stupid... She'll learn, but she has to want to see it first... right now she's blocking it out... So Marcus says "shes throwing herself at me all the time... why not go with it" It's true... he uses her... he's a womanizer and he admitted it to me... See this is what our texts are like, and every now and then a text message says "you were looking sexy today".... Thank you Marcus but I'm not that dumb... and yes we had the conversation over messages on Myspace about... and i quote from him "your different... you're not like most girls" this may be true... but don't think you'll be having your way with me anytime soon!

WHAT MAKES ME MAD!!!! Is How Brittany approaches things when she's mad... now "Arriels a fat white bitch" ok fine... I'll take that, but really I feel sorry for her. She may be a size 2, but at least I know shes not turning Marcus into her man or husband... because he cheats on her all the time and she knows it!!!! What also irritates me... is how "us white bitches are so insecure that we need to go to a black WOMANS man".... EH WRONG.... NEGATIVE... he came to me.... and that's besides the point... I am NOT insecure..... who was going through who's phone and called me??? riiiiiiight.... so your going to call me insecure when your own insecurities get the best of you, and because you cannot trust your so called "man" you go through his phone.... Whatever... everyone deals with thier own... but apparently she wants to beat my ass....

REALLY? Is this what it has come to?? I am 23 years old, and too grown to be acting like this... now maybe if this was 5 or 6 years ago... yeah, I'd be there ready to whoop her ass... but why now? I'm not fighting for anything.... I have nooooo reason!!!

I feel bad that shes mad, but 1 I'm not triffling, 2. I did nothing wrong, and 3. She knows she's not the one for him because he shows it.... SHE KNOWS.... I stood there the day that her friend came into APPLEBEES and said HOW ARE YOU AND MARCUS DOING? her reply.... "Oh we're doing good... he stopped cheating a little bit"

If that's how you want to be then so be it.... but I am a far cry from a worry to you. Their TEXT

amazing.. not my worry! Just thought I'd write about my night... lol

Monday, December 29, 2008

"He blew my mind, but also had a flip side...too much like a gemini"

As 2008 is coming to an end, I'm realizing all the chapters in my life that need to be re-evaluated, dealt with, Finished and put on the shelf of life's experiences... I decided that as much as I will always care for Colin... I just don't want to deal with the unnecessary drama and stipulations that come with him. There's a whole lot in that package, and its just time to move on. After my 23rd birthday, I felt different in ways I can't really explain. I guess maybe I feel a little bit more mature... more like it's "My" time... versus worrying about everyone else... I just felt different, I knew I changed... I also knew after the death of Josh, that I changed drastically. I'm not who I was and nor will I ever be that person again. Life will never be the same either. There's so many issues to the situation with Josh, and maybe on another day I will get into them all. That's just one chapter that I know is going to take some long time of healing... it won't be over by the end of 08' I'm prepared! I know! I just don't know how well I'm prepared for things "not being the same." I defitinitely skipped all the major I don't really know what that was like without him... 2009 will be an adventure when thanksgiving and christmas comes. Baby steps... one step at a time.

I guess mostly, I'm ready to get rid of the negativity in my life. "Tomorrow's Never Promised" thats what I tell myself... Rob, said it sounds depressing, but its not meant to be depressing... its meant to inspire, and it really kinda puts things into persepective. I may not have tomorrow. Why can't I live for that day, and enjoy it no matter how bad things may be. There is no reason for me to dwell on things that happened in the past. It's done, and it's over... we can't change them. Yes, some things hurt, and you can't forget them, but I can't let them affect me today. I want to be able to enjoy the simple things in life. The small things that bring me pleasure.... I don't want to worry about the things that have broghten me down.

So as for my title... It's a line from a song... "signs" by Beyonce. I figured it would do this entry justice. As I'm putting certain things to rest, I feel that this one is an event that I need to let go of. Mike.... As hard as it is for me to truly admit... I was head over heels madly IN love with him. I'm sure people can sit back and tell me again, that I'm young and stupid.... but I know the difference between how I feel for colin and how I feel for Mike. Mike and I had an immediate connection, and we were inseperable. I know as bad as things got in the end.... it was only because it was hard. He had a life with kids, and a wife. It was neither of our intentions to connect like we did... I don't think he meant to hurt me or his wife. We were supposed to be friends... but it was just so much more than that. Everything happened so fast... I know neither of us really expected it. Things were so complicated... and Yes, He broke my heart.... I know he didn't want to, but he didn't have a choice. In reality, I do understand... him being a father to his kids was more important than me... I know he did some bad things, and I know he's back in prison... but I also know how badly he wanted to change... and the things him and I talked about, and I truly believe he wanted those things and meant what he said. I don't think he was strong enough to live on the straight and narrow. Sometimes it's hard for people to change, and leave the only thing they know. And according to prison statistics... 97% of all inmates return at some point in their life. You do the math... it leave a small percent for those who can make it legitimately. Aside from Josh... Mike was one of the hardest things I ever had to overcome in my life. It's been a long process, but I think I'm finally there. I miss him... I really do. But I can't hold on to memories... those are slowly fading away. Yesterday I drove to Winston Salem to go to the flea market with my mom. I asked her to drive past the "shop" Mike and I had opened a store... My name wasn't on anything because I was afraid it would fail, as it did... but I lost a good amount of money... and time. I tried to help him live the life he wanted... there was nothing about that store that was illegal. I helped him get all the paperwork and buy the name and etc. He started to realize the struggle for those making money the legitimate way. It doesn't come fast, and it takes time. I would like to think I provided him with a lot of good information. Even though I was only 21... I provided him with a lot... he just didn't know how to use it... He's a very strong person... there was nothing he couldn't handle... He thought too much like what he knew tho.... a criminal. Naturally when the relationship ended I took the store as a loss.... I felt used... sure... like I was just money, and etc... it took me a long time to realize certain details that made it so difficult for us.

So I got out of the car... and looked through the window. It was empty... It made me sick to my stomach... not so much because of the money that was lost, but because I could literally visualize and see us together in there... and never expecting it to come to an end. It made me sick to my stomach to think about how much I loved him! I felt like I couldn't breathe.... as I looked at the For Sale sign in the window... I admit, I did get teary eyed, but I couldn't cry because I was with my mom. Obviously the "mortgage" payment wasn't getting paid on the place... so it was a business closing/foreclosure kind of deal... I saw where the people came in and emptied it out... things were thrown everywhere.... and it was empty... all except for one thing... The sign I made was still hanging on the front of the counter.... "Big Apple Fashion" That was the only thing still standing in the place... I took it as a sign from God... It may sound crazy, but everything else failed, everything else was gone... empty... he failed... his life "straight life" failed.... but the only thing that was still holding up through all the failure... was my sign... ME. I'm gonna be ok.... and It's time to let him go for sure this time... A part of me will always love him... but I have to say goodbye... Holding on is not worth the pain it causes my heart. He was apart of me, and it'll always remain that way... He did this, He made all this happen... not me... so I'll be ok.

I'm really looking forward to 2009!

Goodbye Alman "Mike" Coleman.

Chapter CLOSED!

Sunday, December 28, 2008


Ok, so lets me honest here. I've gained about 50 pounds. I know... it's obvious. I know everyday that i look in my closet, I have jeans that are a size 9/10, and I have the jeans and clothes that I wear now in the bigger sizes... I'm somewhere in between a 13/14 and a 15/16.... I know... do people not understand that I know what I am. I know I ate my way out of a depression... and I've not totally overcome the struggle. I am an emotional eater. I eat when I'm stressed, sad, even happy! I know all these facts about myself, but what I really want to know is.... do people really think it's necessary to openly point out one's imperfections? I'm not an idiot, I see myself everyday I look in the mirror, and I know that the change starts with me....

When you sit back and refer to someone as fat and obese... and you're supped to be a persons friend... what do you expect them to say when you confront them on the things they say? My so called "friend" decided to make a joke of me and talk about me badly and refer to me as a "fat obese bitch" and trust me... I saw the text message! I know it was said. So I asked the person why they said those things... and he says "well its true... u used to be hot, but now i just don't know what happened to you..." are u serious... I can't be upset with him for speaking his feelings toward me, but to go behind my back, and then calling yourself my friend to my face... really?

People usually tend to point out anothers imperfections to mask their own insecurities... I know this. It's rule of thumb. I really thought he was a good person at one point. Someone I trusted... someone I confided in about the reasons I gained the 50 pounds... and for him to be like that just blows my mind! It's not right because now let me tell you about him. He was about 280 pounds... really pushing 300, and I never said anything... it wasn't my place to stand back and say "hey pal, do you really think we should be going out to eat? and do you really need all that extra crap on your food?" nooooooooo.... I let him be him... but now that he's dropped 80 pounds, his head has swollen up with an ego like no other! and even when that happened I let him toot his horn about going to the gym everyday, and how he's losing weight and getting in shape because he wants to try to persue his dream and start with baseball tryouts and so on and so forth... I sat there and said "I'm happy for you...proud that you made these changes" So, now that I am the way I am... your too good? It's not fair... why are people so mean? I mean my feelings are hurt! I shouldn't let it get the best of me, and I'm not going to let that happen... BUT I am going to take it as initiative to do something about my weight. I've been trying, lord knows I try, but its hard and I give up. I do... that's my biggest problem when it comes to diet and exercise... it gets hard, and I lose the motivation and the 10-15 pounds I worked so hard to lose end up right back showing on the scale.

Ya know, it just really hurts my feelings...especially when I was already down because of the situation at the club last night... I went out with some friends, I was meeting up with them, so I stood in line with this guy that I happened to know, and him and I were 3rd in line literally there was 2 guys infront of us... I had on a pair of jeans and a cute top. Nothing showy just simple, nice and comfortable. It was also sprinkling rain.... Now ladies always get in first.... how come the bouncers and security went to the back of the line, and let all these skinny girls go in.... as girls were walking up to the place they were calling for them to skip up the line... Mind you... I'm a female, and I'm in line... 3rd person... and I waited about 25 mins to get in...meanwhile all my friends are inside having a good time. Its not like the bouncers even knew these girls.... it literally made me sick to my stomach. I guess because I used to know what it was like to be the girl that "looked good" and could skip the line like that... now I'm the fat chick who has to wait in line to get in.... and it sucks.... it really put a damper on my mood, and I was regretting even going out... If I hadn't driven 45 minutes to greensboro, and waited in line for 25 mins... I really would have gotten back in the car and came back home. It was a bad feeling. By the time I even got into the club I was only there for like an hour n 45 mins...not even long enough to enjoy myself with all these things on my mind.

I have to find motivation and energy somewhere. I need to get out of the slumps and move on with my life!!!

Saturday, December 27, 2008

Colin Davis

I've been thinking a lot about my first love for some reason... I don't know why, but he's been heavy on my mind lately. I remember the way he used to give me butterflies, and the way he used to make me smile. I met him in high school when I was 15... and we were on and off for years.... we were never actually together like that... in an official "relationship" because there was so many underlying circumstances, and of course distance was an issue... You know long distance relationships are hard to make work... hell, sometimes long distance friendships are hard to make last. Not to mention, he was "bad" and always in trouble for something... so naturally my parents thought it was best I stayed away from him... I didn't listen though. There were years of sneaking around, and going out with friends to meet up with It makes me laugh because I really do have to learn everything the hard way. He insisted my parents were just racist... which isn't the case.... Maybe he meant prejudice... and in that case yes, they were because he was always in trouble, always breaking car windows with baseball bats, slashing tires (including mine), and getting arrested for stupid things.. like fighting, or half stopping at a stop sign and theres a cop who stops him and realizes that his DL is suspended from what?? years of unpaid parking so he makes his way to the holding center a lot and of course gets his name posted in the weekly area news paper under the police blotter. My parents were against that... but I was "in love" young, and stupid sounds more like We've sort of remained's hard to forget your first love, your first kiss, your first everything... and to sit back and realize all the crazy things we've done to eachother to make each other jealous, or just to be out right mean! I remember his birthday one year... the night, he spit his rum n coke in my face... that was also the night I fought back instead of crying.... I snapped his cell phone in half, then picked up the take out box of chicken wings and whipped it at his head... wings went flying everywhere and he was covered in bleu cheese, there were words spoken and words that really hurt my feelings, and with alcohol involved, people (me) seem to make the choices of lesser value... I kicked in the driver side door of his car... there's a permenant mark in the door, and then I keyed my own name on the hood of his car. He threatened me for weeks saying he was reporting everything to the police if I didn't pay to have his car fixed and pay to replace his phone... but I must admit, I felt that I didn't owe him a damn thing! after all the hurt he put me through, and then to spit in my face, which I personally think is one of the most disrespectful degrading things ever!!! I was very upset. We laughed about it later, and after all was said and done, we still loved each other... How do people love one another in the most dysfunctional relationships? I know I loved him because he was the first person I ever truly felt feelings for and made the decision to act on them. We still fight on and off til this day, and end up contacting one another just to say "hey... I miss you" of course we argue about it too... but thats life for him and I. I guess we just connect in the oddest of ways. I used to think I would spend the rest of my life with him... and that if we decided to go seperate ways that someday in some way we would end up together. I don't know if I really believe that now. It's funny, because I used to know every detail of everything between him and I. I knew dates and times like the back of my hand... now I just remember the most important times that occurred between him and I that meant the most to me... the rest are just slowly slipping away. I used to remember in detail, every lie he told me, and every way he hurt me... and though our way of communicating is through arguing I can't even remember the ways that we've hurt each other... I guess it's showing how I'm moving on in my life, and details that hurt me the most, and affected my life aren't as important as they once were. I know he loved me very much at one point, even though I tell him he didn't love me enough or at all. People change, and people move forth. He was a stepping stone in my life... one that ruined me... haha I'm just kidding. Our situation was complicated from the start... and there's times where I really do miss him. He was apart of me for so long... and throwing away about 7 years is a hard thing to do... But it's time to start a new chapter.... it was time along time ago... I just didnt have the strength to do it then. So with a heavy heart... I wish him the best in his life, and I'll still think of him... it's just not worth the pain and aggravation anymore. The little arguments take too much out of me. I probably won't call him anymore, and when he contacts me... I just won't answer or respond to his text or email... It's so bittersweet... but one step forward is better than 10 steps backwards, which is what happens when we remain in contact. So for the both of us... Goodbye...

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Missing Josh... Merry Christmas

Today was difficult. Apart of me really wanted to be home in Buffalo with all my family, and the other part of me didn't. I just wasn't into the Christmas spirit this year... nor was I last year. I once again cried this morning over Josh... somtimes I feel like I will never come to terms with the fact that he's gone. We are Nativer American, and my mom ordered a spirit flute for my little brother Jeremy (he's 7) and when he unwrapped it this morning, he immediately opened it and started playing on it... then he came and told my mom and I that while he was playing for it he was calling for Josh, so that we could tell him Merry Christmas quickly before Josh had to go home.... I played along, but had to go to another room, cuz I started crying... had to get myself back together and go on with the day. I'm trying to stay busy... trying to be happy to, but I'm in a "blah" kind of a mood. My step family is visiting, and they are not my most favorite people in the world, so I've been in my room 80% percent of everyday that they've been here... I figure it'd be best, because if I hear them say something ignorant to or about me, my mom or my family... I'm the type who won't bite my tongue and hold anything back. I guess in a way, thats a problem... but I don't believe that any of them are any better than I or my mother... so for them to get on their horse n toot their own horn in my mothers house is disrespectful, and quite frankly I do not want to hear it.

To be honest, I think were looking into moving back to Buffalo. I don't mind...whether I stay here and go to A&T and my mom move back... I can always transfer to UB. Plus by then rob will be home :) I'm patiently waiting but it's just not coming quick enough....

Well i hope you all are enjoying the holiday!

Monday, December 22, 2008

December 21st, 2004

This is a picture of my first car. You probably cannot tell by looking at this picture that it is a 2001 Oldsmobile Alero...I got it July 29th, 2003... on December 21st, 2004... I was on my way to work and was hit head on by a semi. He crossed over the yellow lines on a two way highway with only 2 lanes, one going south, one north. I was the driver going south...he swerved and just clipped my front end, but the trailer continued to roll over my car while I was in it. My feet went through the firewall, and the engine was laying on both of my legs. I had no idea what happened. I just knew that I was on my way to work. I had no idea of the details, these are just things I was told after the accident occured while I was recovering in the hospital. I'm very lucky to be alive... I have 9 screws and 2 metal plates in my right leg because of this accident. I'm thankful for everyday that I have to talk about it. It's hard to believe that 4 years ago, I could have been dead. It is still a mystery to me and everyone else how I survived. I use this picture as a constant reminder that I'm here for a reason, and that even though things get tough and I throw my tantrums thinking I'm not going to make it through... that the struggle is well worth the outcome of success when it's over because God put my on this earth for a reason, and he intended for me to stay and do something great. At least that is what I believe!!

So, December 16th was my 23rd Birthday! :) My mom asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I told her I wanted a tattoo on my right foot with the phrase "Tomorrow's Never Promised" Heres the pic of it! I absolutely love it. It is also a reminder to live everyday at my best because for whatever the reason may be, I may not live to see tomorrow... (You can also see the scar going up my leg from the ankle where they put the screws and metal plates.

My Birthday was a little bit difficult... I thought about Josh and cried. He turned 23 in May, so a part of this tattoo was meant for him too. I still miss him so much... the holidays are so hard to get through without him. I understand that death is apart of life, but I will never until my last dying breath understand why God had to take him of all the people in this world why it was him... Some days are easy, and some days are hard to get through. The 20th of December was the 5 month anniversary of his death, and these last few days as it gets closer to christmas are hard to get through. I find myself remiscing of all the childhood memories. I hope my brothers ok... he was like an older brother to mike and i... but mike hides his feelings a whole lot better than I do.
I had planned to go home for the holidays, but on a positive note, I got the job at David's Bridal that I had applied for. I've been going there and doing training, and it is so much fun! I really enjoy it! I know brides are demanding but I love it so much more than waiting tables at Applebees!! and it's so exciting to see all these excited girls so happy to get married. I'll be glad when my training is over and I can really start working one on one with the brides... right now I'm just observing and going over client/consultant relationships and etiquette and selling techniques, but I love it! Once I get the full hang of it, I will probably only work 1 day a week at Applebees, and work 3-4 days at Davids Bridal. At least this way, I can get a check every 2 weeks, and still work one night a week serving tables and have some cash on me. We'll see how that goes. Applebees will probably be upset when I do this, but I have to make moves for me... It's my life, not theirs.
Well, I just wanted to give a little update, and share a few things. Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas if I'm not by to post before then...
Merry Christmas!

Monday, December 15, 2008

The semester is over!'s over!! I passed all my classes. I got my grades today! I'm very relieved. One less thing I have to worry about now. I'm on vacation for the next few weeks. I need it too!

I went out and did a little bit of shopping today. I got shopping done for 3 people, and I have about 5 or 6 more to go.. lol I'll try to get more accomplished tomorrow. I must say though... It's CRAZY out there, and thats a little bit of an

I haven't heard anything back from that job that I went on two interviews for. They told me that I would know by today, but I didn't get a call. It's ok.. I still have my job at Applebees, and I will continue to apply for something that will fit my next semester schedule and job at applebees better. So I guess I will call tomorrow to check to make sure, but either way after christmas I'm making arrangements to home to Buffalo, NY for new years eve, to see my family and Rob, and then go see Josh. Every couple months it's something I have to do...

Tomorrow is my BIRTHDAY. I'll be 23 :) I have an appointment at 7pm to get a tattoo on my right foot. It's my birthday gift from my mom... it's what I asked for. I'm excited, but nervous. I hear the foot is painful! lol but the tattoo guy says their all painful, so it doesnt matter.

Well, I guess thats about it. I hope you all are enjoying the season! I wish there was snow... it was in the high 60's here today :(

Wednesday, December 10, 2008


I'm having the hardest time studying for my western civ exam tonight!! Last night I couldn't do it, I looked at the same page for an hour and couldn't remember anything I was reading, so I'd have to "Start all over" I need to pass this class so I can finish this second degree!! I'm ready to scream. I should have taken a different class, but i figured this class would have been interesting, and it was... just not the way the instructor goes about teaching it! I need prayers... cuz without this class, I don't get that second associates, and it looks like this is the only class holding me up right now, because my last exam tomorrow... American History should be simple

Not to mention, I've been so worked up about the second call back from the job I applied for that I haven't been able to concentrate. I really want this job, I just didn't think that everything would happen so fast, so when they called me last night and asked me to come in today at 2:15, it threw my plans all over. I'm trying to study for the next 45 mins with no interuptions, then at 12 I'm going to get ready for the second interview at 2:15 and when it is all over with I will drive to school and sit in a quiet non-dristracting place, and cram the info into my brain! Like I said, i really want this job, but the interviews that I have been on are inconveniencing me.... and if I start this job, it means I probably will not be going to NY around Christmas and I was really looking forward to that, and seeing Rob. I wanted to go see Josh too.... uhhh we'll see what happens. It will all work its self out

On another note, I did get on the scale, and I lost 3.4 pounds by using the WW eating guidelines and using up my flex points, but its a work in progress... stress makes me eat, so maybe once exams are over I'll use less flex points! Anyhoo... i also need to incorporate exercise into the plan... this last week was just where I threw myself in and forced myself to stay on plan as much as possible. This week I have to plan better meals with less point value, and get in at least 2-3 days of exercise... I'm easing my way into a routine. Cuz if I jump right in, I'll most likely give up... so one step at a time! Well time to go study.... 45 mins of Western Civ! woo hoo lol yeah right

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

2 more to go/Rob/weightloss

I'm exhausted! I was up late studying, craming in every last big of information. And I passed all 3 exams, I even went to see my American Lit professor for my final grade and i passed! woo hoo! Two more exams to go and a paper to hand I have Western Civilization, and American History, and the semester is OVER by Thursday... Thank GOD!!! I am feeling relieved!

I got a letter from Rob, hes doing alright. He's definitely ready to come home. I'm ready for him to come home too. I hate that when he needs stuff he refuses to ask me for it! I sent him a money order today because the letter he wrote said he didn't have any money, and the stamp he was using to write the letter was his last... I'm sure it was a hint, but I just wish he would let me know ahead of time when the money in his account is getting low so that I can make sure I put a money order in the mail, so that he doesn't go without. He works, but 25 cents a day doesn't cut it! I'll be glad when this is all over with. I get paid on Friday, so I'll probably send him some more money then. I'm planning on going home for Christmas this year, so I'm plannig for a trip to go visit him. I think he needs a visit and a good hug and kiss... he's just not his best in this new place... the other one he was much better at.

So last wednesday I picked myself back up, and started all over again with my dieting... I'm going to skip my weigh in this week and see what I lose by next weds. the 17th, the day after my birthday! Hopefully it will be a loss. I've been trying to follow ww as much as possible. it seems alright. I'm hoping for it to get better though.

Well, I'm going to take a nap and then get back up and study for my exam tomorrow. Hope yall enjoy the day...

Monday, December 8, 2008


It's Monday... and I'm soooo ready for this week to be over! Exams... Exams...Exams! I'm going crazy. I don't want to study anymore. I want to be on vacation! I'm tired of learning, and writing papers... I need just a little bit of time to relax, and get my personal life in order! I have to make it through til Thursday... thats all I keep telling myself!

I went to the doctors today, for my regular yearly check up. All is good... I just have to wait on the results of the lab work. I got checked for everything... just to be on the safe side. I felt kind of bad because there was a girl who was in the lab waiting to have blood work taken again, and she was crying hysterically. I was trying to mind my own business, but she kept saying "I can't believe he did this to me... I can't believe he gave me this" I kept my head burried in the Allure magazine I was reading, but I have to admit.. I got a little emotional seeing her cry like that. I started to get a little uncomfortable waiting on the lab girl to come do her job, so I walked out of the waiting room and down the hall to the ladies room, and overheard the girls mother on the phone crying telling her husband their daughter tested positive for HIV, and they were going to be running more tests, and do some blood work to figure out medications to put her on. I don't even know the girl, and it made me sick to my stomach... she had to be around my age, who knows maybe even younger... she looked younger. I felt bad, I wanted to go back into the room and tell her things would work themselves out, and it'd be ok, but I didn't want to butt in to something that has nothing to do with me. Nothing I could've said would've made the girl feel any better anyhow, and plus I don't think she would've been happy had she known I overheard her mother freaking out in the hallway. It's sad. I know a couple people who live their life with the virus, and have children, and are doing the best that they can. Their life isn't completely over, they just need to be careful with things they do, and of course there's a limit to sexual partners, and etc... it's scary.... no matter what though. Things happen. so it's best to always be the safest possible.

Well, I have to get to studying. 3 exams tomorrow, so I'm going to be craming every bit of information into my head that I possibly Lets just hope it doesn't all run together. hope all is well out there!

Wednesday, December 3, 2008


God works in such mysterious ways. So, i found out last night that my Ex is in prison again. ( No this is not a trend for me... its just how it happened... Rob is completely different because he was a friend from high school and we've been friends since 2000... it just so happened that after high school he got involved in the wrong lifestyle..) However... my Ex... Mike.... is his name. I do not change names in any of my entries because... well, lets face it, facts are facts, and people should be known for exactly what/who they are... especially when they do people so wrong! OK, so let me get you all up to speed. Mike... I met him March 8th 2007, and fell in love... he was like no one i had ever met. We were together a few short months... 7 to be exact, and then at the very last months of our relationship... i found out about another woman in his life who was pregnant.... She was living in Syracuse, NY... the part he failed to mention was that she was also his wife. She was waiting til after she had the baby to move to NC which was why i had no idea she even existed. Then she showed up in September.... it was over just like that... I was out of the picture and out of the house, and she was moving in. Well, come to find out all the furniture in the house was hers... lol How could I have been so stupid? Love is Blind, and don't ever let people tell you differently. You can't help who you fall for in some cases. Well it wasn't until December... 5 days before my birthday that i actually found out he was married... That was when his wife called me. I had a really hard time with this break up. I gained about 40+ pounds (which is why im struggling to lose weight now) and I swear i didn't get out of bed for about 5 or 6 months unless I absolutely had to. I could not believe I had lived a lie for 7 months. My heart was broken and I had felt betrayed.... naturally there had been some problems between his wife and I... but eventually that all came to an end. I eventually woke up and began to mend the peices of my broken heart back together... during that process rob came along to help me get over it... as my friend and nothing more... things change though... Well back to the situation with Mike now. So I went to NYS DOC website to look up information on sending Rob some stuff... I happened to see the link for the "inmate lookup" I figured what the hell...let me type Mike's name (as well as others) in there and see what I get... hes lied to me so many other times let me see if what he told me he went to prison for the First time, was the truth or not.... That in fact was TRUE... then..... THEN i continue to read on about his criminal record (you know all this info is public, and is always kept on file)... well lone behold.... it says current status: IN CUSTODY.... for a porole violation based on his conditional release date which as you know was when he was released from prison and put on parole. He's now in Livingston correctional facility... go figure, and this is what got me the most..... He's not eligible for an early release until March 1oth, 2010.... now... that date is significant to me because March 10th was our first date... our first kiss, and when we officially decided to be together... but in 2007. For me, it was a sign from God, and yes, it was meant for me to look him up and see this information. Karma... After everything he did to me and put me through for those 7 months (which was not bad because I did love him), but there after was the hard part... finding out all the lies, and betrayal. Going through the depression... He is exactly where he should be right now, and won't have freedom until the day he met me but 3 years later. I know I should not be happy about it, and I do feel bad for his 3 children... maybe even his wife too, but he deserves to be where he is. I'm over him. I'm no longer longing for his love. I'm no longer bitter for the lies and the hurt, but I am thankful for the opportunity to have been with him. I'm thankful that for those 7 months he showed me love in a different way. Even though things were bad for a moment in time between us, it was just as hard for him to say goodbye to me as it was me having to let go of him, and theres no doubt in my mind that he didn't love me. I've learned a lesson from him, that could not have had a better teacher than him. Karma is indeed a fact, and tho he may not even realize the significance of those dates, I do... and I needed that. I needed to know that it was over for me. And though I will always love him for being my heart for 7 months, I will no longer wonder why he had to hurt me so badly.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008


The difinition of that is...ME! lol So last tuesday my American Lit professor handed out a paper that contained 3 topics to write about for our final paper due TODAY... tell me why it is 4:30, and I am still sitting here writing it. I've got 3 pages done, and my but I still have 3 more pages of information to write and hand in by 6:00. I wrote and edited my paper in between/ during my morning classes.... I need a vacation. I hated this semester and I've been praying for it to come to an end, and YES it has been one that I will settle as Average with that C in. Please don't think for any reason I am happy being an under achiever... this semester was not my idea of a good time. lol There was too much going on, and so many days where I literally had to force myself to get out of bed all because of Josh. His girlfriend didn't even go to school this semester and it was supposed to be her last year, she was supposed to graduate i believe but she couldn't do it. I can understand why. I still refer to Jen... her name is Jen, as Josh's girlfriend... I guess that will change with time too. I don't want to write my paper... please pray for I need a 70 on this final to pass this class with a C. And this paper is definitely thrown together, but I'll take my C and run with it!!!

Thanksgiving was ok. I got through it. I ate dinner with my family then ended up going to a friend Toya's house where I proceeded to eat all the food they mmm good ol' southern style thanksgiving (it was my first) "Soul food"... gotta love it! It was comforting in getting passed the thankgiving memories of Josh... but then we proceeded to drink... now I'm not a violent person, but I do have a bit of a temper... Alcohol+temper+Arriel+drama=Arriel punching Reese in the mouth. Yes I even made him bleed. I do not know why I am like that! This poor guy has a HUGE crush on me... and I know there was a lot of other emotions behind it, but he pushed me to the limit... and yes I hit him! I felt kind of bad so I went to his house and watched a movie with him on Sunday after work. We watched how to lose a guy in 10 days... it was cute, i had actually never saw it before. But now I think he thought more of the situation than I did, so he has been blowing my phone up!!! Always breaking hearts... thats what Toya and Melissa told me... I can't help it. Reese is a very nice guy. He's got a cool personality but soo far from my type. I'm not into the skateboarders and dreads... lol I tried to talk him into cutting them out... he said No, of course.

Me and my mother got into an argument of something stupid last night, and as you all will come to find out, I am an emotional eater! So she sabotaged my diet yesterday and I was off to a great start until I went and ate all those chocolate chip cookies with milk! I've been trying to build up enough courage to get on the scale and see the damage that BOTH those thanksgiving meals caused.... Today I tried to do better, I even went to the track and walked a mile but later when I got out of American History, I started stressing that I only have about an hour to whip up 3 pages of a Paper on Emerson's Self Reliance... naturally I turn and theres vending machines... and peanut M&M's... I get out of class at 9:00 tonight... I hate Tuesdays.... I'm in class from 10am til 9pm. Again, I will say, I can't wait for this semester to be over! Tomorrow is a new day!

Well its 4:42, and i have 3 pages to write by 6 and make lots of citations from the reading that I failed to do! lol If only writing about Emerson was as easy as it is to write this entry!

Hope ya'll are doing well!

Monday, December 1, 2008


I wrote a long post, and i published it, and where is it?!?!? your guess is as good as mine!

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Checking In.

Sometimes I have no idea where I'm going with my life. All I can do is take it one day at a time, and go from there.

I've been accepted to NC A&T State University, so there will be lots of changes in that department. I start January 8th, and the college is about an hour away from my house, so there will be lots of driving time as of right now. I'm now working on my BA. in psychology... so its going to be a new experience... the "real" college experience now.

I'm doing better with Josh not being here anymore. I don't cry nearly as often as I did, but its still hard... and it definitely takes time. Thanksgiving will be hard because thats the one holiday that i saw him every year. It also reminds me of the time we got into the moonshine. haha that was a good time. I still miss him. Today is one of those days thats harder than others infact I opted not to go home for thanksgiving because i'm not ready to celebrate without Josh.

Rob and I have run into some complications in our "relationship" They switched him to a different prison a little bit further away, and he's having a really hard time adjusting. He won't be home til August, so he's been really stressed out and etc. so it's kind of put a strain on things between us... it's not going too well. I don't understand it completely but he said he wanted to do the rest of his time alone, and for me not to worry about him because he's ok, he just feels like hes a burden on me (hes really not in my opinion). He said he has nothing to offer me because of the mistakes he made, so he doesnt understand why I would want love him or want to be with him. He said i have more going for myself, and he doesn't anymore. I don't know how I feel. It kind of upset me, but I really don't know what he's going through. I've never been in this situation before. I guess basically all I can do is wait and see what happens and let him know that nothing has changed in the way I feel toward him. So over the next 8 months I'll just focus on me and school. When he come's home we'll straighten things out then. It just makes me feel bad, because I wish there was something I could do... I'm a fixer and this is something I can't fix right now.

I've officially gained back the 15 pounds that i lost over the summer. Their definitely back, and I'm feeling like crap! So after thanksgiving is over... and the leftovers are gone... I'm hitting the gym, and getting a meal plan started! I need to make a better plan for myself health wise. It's getting to be rediculous, because I keep putting it off and saying 'I can get to it later' NOT TRUE... because I never get to it. I learned circuit training in my one class and I love it! This semester is almost over, so I'll have a few weeks to work something out. I'll be at the gym too because I'm wasting 60 bucks a month to not even go!
Well I just wanted to check in... Hope you all enjoy your thanksgiving!

Friday, November 14, 2008


I'm in one of those moods tonight. I have so much to do and not enough time to do it. My grandparents will be here once again from New York, sometime around 12pm. I'm exhausted. I've been back and forth from the hospital, and running errands for my mother in addition to arguing with my father about 4 tires for my (since i only have 3 and the spare) and going to school taking 16 credit hours! So tonight, I have to get all the cleaning done before my grandparents get here. Everythings a mess because I haven't been here to clean up after my little brother. I've been in the hospital with my mom and at school! My step dad is no help at all! I got a since FULL and plus some of dishes, a counter full of mail and other miscellaneous items, UNFOLDED laundry just stacked up on the couch in the livingroom.... really? u can wash it, but cant fold it! grr... and my little brother has toys scattered from 1 end to the other in every single room of the house... I went to take a shower... yeah right! I had to clean the little men out of the tub before i got in! I have my work cut out for me!! I'm very particular about my living so its going to be a long process! I just want to go to sleep so bad! But at least my grandparents will be here to help me out with my mom and little brother, and that will take some stress off my shoulders... that will leave me to worry about school, and the 1 day a week I am not working since they cut my hours! I'm not happy about that, but at least I'll be able to catch up on sleep for the next 2 weeks! I just don't know what I'm going to do about money because I have to go to court on the 21st of this month for an open container in a moving vehicle ticket that I got... long story short... every person in the car got a ticket... drink or no drink. Moral of the story... drive ur own vehicle...LOL lesson learned... of course the HARD way. I'll have to come out of MY pocket with $146.00 now :(

Anyway, I applied for a transfer to NC A&T, and they called me to notify they would be sending me paperwork to fill out and send back in. I asked Melissa (my friend who's already attending what that and she said I'm basically in) Woo hoo... one last worry! I currently have 2 degrees, an associates in criminal justice, and an associates in humanities/social sciences. I need to stop just taking classes and get to the University and finish my BA. That will actually take me 2 semesters... so by spring 2009, I'll have my 3rd degree... my BA in Psychology. One step I'm excited about A&T tho! yay! :)

Today was a rough day... I don't understand. Some days I'm good, and other days I'm hurting and cannot move on. On the 20th of this month, will make 4 months since Josh passed... I still cry my eyes out. It makes me sick thinking about it. I keep a picture of him, micheal and me on my dresser... and it hurts so much facing that he's gone. I even wear his clothes, they smell like his cologne. I went home for halloween, and my aunt let me take a few of his things, it was hard!! I cried while i went through the boxes... I went to see Josh on Nov. 4th. I stood there n cried.... cried for an hour... looking at the ground... Josh doesn't have a headstone aunt's saving the money to get the pretty black one, with a portrait of josh engraved on it. I can't believe he's gone sometimes, and I can't believe how messed up my life is without him. He knew my life...23 years...we grew up together... it wasn't supposed to be like this! It's just not getting any easier. I want him back so bad... I still feel like it's a bad dream, and one day I'll wake up... I miss him more than words could ever express. It's just really taking it's toll on me. Enough about that... I'm starting to cry just sitting here.

I'm worried because I haven't hearn from Rob in 2 weeks. That's very unusual. They moved him to a different prison, and I know that'll take some adjusting, but I still worry. He comes home August 6th, 2009 and I don't want anyone to ruin that for him, or him get involved in anything and ruin it himself. He's been good for 3 years, I hope he doesn't wait for these last few month to get time added! I can't handle that! I know he's "bad news" and etc... but I feel like he's the one who's going to make the difference in my life. I've known him for almost 9 years. I still remember Highschool back in 2000 when I saw him... lol it puts a smile on my face... I definitely had a crush on him and never admitted to it. People learn from their mistakes, and I know he doesn't want to be where he is, or go back... so I'm pretty positive theres a pretty promising future. I've stuck by him for the last 2 years of his sentence... after his wife left him... lol I'm saying too much. let me end it there because it's too complicated to even explain right now. I love him, but I'm not ready to tell him right now i stick to "love ya like a friend." And I do want to be with him. It's just hard admitting to Like I said, it is complicated since hes married and about to be divorced... aaaannnddd dated my friends in high school, one of which whom I'm still very close friends with. Oh well, hopefully he can call, or maybe I'll get a letter from him tomorrow. He makes me smile. He understands me.... I hope he's ok.

That's about all I have to say for tonight. Oh and my mom is home and recovering very well! Thats about it.

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Stressed beyond belief!!

Well, let me start by telling you how my day went. I woke up this morning and everything was fine... I left to go to work to work my usual shift from 11-5, but on the way got a flat tire making me almost 40 minutes late for then to add the icing to the cake... I work at Applebees, and pretty much the only money i see and make is TIPS. ( PEOPLE DO NOT KNOW HOW TO TIP!) I understand times are hard, but when your total bill is $80... there should be more of a tip than $4 when I know I ran to a marathon for you people!!! Anyhow... for the day... when I left around 6... for the day, I had $20 dollars in my pocket... business is in fact that bad!! I need to move on and look for either a second job or a higher paying job. It probably cost me $10 alone in gas to drive to work. I just hate to have to go to another job and learn something new when I have so much currently going on with school, and finals comin up in just 4 short weeks.
School is stressing me out! I have tests and Research papers among research papers do in the next 2 weeks. I'm so overwhelmed I feel like I don't know where to start! First things first, I start with what is do TUESDAY... which means I have to write my American History Book Review, Study for my Health test, complete all 3 health homework assignments, and Study for my Health test. I have the rest of tonight and most of Monday to complete this, but I have LOTS going on... I won't be sleeping.... and the lack of sleep is my current problem. Tomorrow, I also have to go to the records office and have my current college transcripts sent to NC A&T where I will be transfering to. I'll be so glad to move onto something bigger and better and new!
Tuesday will be a stressful day, along with all those papers, assignments and tests, my mother is also having surgery at 9:30am, and because of my schedule I cannot be there with her. It was found last month that she has stage 4 endometriosis, which is pretty severe. The Dr. said it is the WORST she has ever seen in her entire career ( and this dr, is not young). All of my mothers organs are attached to eachother by this tissue, so they have to literally cut her open, and scrape all her organs the best of their ability, and then detach all her reproductive organs because as a result of the endometriosis and low iron, they want her to have a hysterectomy. I'm scared for her. My mother is only 40... what would I do without her? Please keep her in your prayers!
Well I know this is kind of scattered, but hopefully it makes sense, I need to at least lay down for a few minutes, and then get to work on all my assignments! This week is going to be crazy!!!

Friday, November 7, 2008

My Life

From the beginning... My mother and father met at their elementary school at age 11. They started dating when my mother was 13, and my father was 14. My mother had me at 17... and if you think about it now, I've been with my mother longer than she's been alone. My parents got pregnant with my brother Michael at 19, and in that same period they also got married. Then they divorced at 29. They are now in their 40's, my mother who just turned 40 in August, and my father who turned 41 in October, and I can sit back and say how I've watched them grow and mature over the years. My mother is abused... emotionally, physically, mentally... I've watched her struggle for so many years. My father has OCD.. clearly he has to be in control, everything has a spot, and it's either his way or no way. That's where him and I didn't get along. I spent almost 7 years having no contact with my father... then finally when we did, we were so different that we didn't get along. Without him, I had a voice, I was outspoken, and spoiled... it was my way, not his way... he didn't like that, I had become my own person... Over the years, we fought and argued, and would take breaks from talking and seeing each other, and in the last year or so... things have changed between him and I. He still gets upset, because i don't always listen... and i'm stubborn and always have to learn lifes lesson myself... usually the hard way. But that's me. I'm not perfect. My mother is my heart. Occassionally we have our little disagreements, but without her... I'd be an even bigger mess (the mess I am right now, is because I did it to myself..). I've had a very good life. I cannot complain. But, growing up is hard. Being responsible for everything you do is hard. Becoming well to do, and well respected is hard. I've done things in my life, that I'm not completely proud of (hence having to learn the hard way), but it's over with, and though I know I cannot change the past... I know that all I have is my word, and my name... and someday when I'm gone, that is how people will remember me. I can't change everything, but I can change my life now. I may have to let go of the memories that I'm holding on to, or the people that are in my heart... But I need to live my life for me, and some of these things are just holding me back. One day at a time...

Thursday, November 6, 2008

I'm Tired...

drained, physically, educationally... and mostly emotionally. In the last 2 years, I've been forced to deal with things that I have not wanted to do, deal with, or have to go through . I have this big platter, it's not even a plate anymore... full of so much! I don't even know where to begin. So I guess, I start slowly...

I'm trying to reconstruct my life for the better. I'm a mess, I know that sounds normal for most people in their early 20's but I hate how I feel!

I'm broken, and searching for all the missing peices to put myself back together, mainly my heart. I have a doctors appointment at the end of this month, and am going to talk to her about seeking a permenant psychiatrist/counselor of some sort... I'm not crazy, I just need to talk to somebody. I don't want to be put on any type of medication, but I feel so horrible most days that maybe I need to! I have problems sleeping, and its gradually getting worse based on the stresses in my life. I remember being so much stronger than I am right now. I lost that somewhere along the way,and I hate that I allow people to get the best of me.

I'm on a journey to find myself... to find the meaning of my life, and to live a healthier life.... I'm unhappy with myself, and the things I've done, and let people do to me. I know everything comes with time, but I'm in such a down pour in life right now! I want to find the quickest way out, because who I've been is not who I am.

I wanna be happy, I want to be able to smile again... I genuinely want to feel good... because I deserve to. It's a work in progress.

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

A journey of a new

Well, let me start by saying welcome to my *NEW* journal. Recently AOL journals shut down, and I lost mine of 4 years... it's sad, and I said I wouldn't journal anymore but I believe that I need to because it helps me get through the days.

This is going to be insteresting, as I'm getting used to how this all works, so please anyone reading or following bear with me, and PLEASE let me know your out there reading.

I'm going through so many different changes and transitions in life... it's amazing the journey that I am on day to day. Life is an issue in itself, Grief... that I am dealing with, and the fact that I suffer from weight issues which is what my other journal was all about. This journal will be something new, with a better attitude... and hopefully many thoughts and prayers... and hopefully i find some readers along the way!