"just friends" to nothing at all...

It was bad enough expressing my feelings to someone and being rejected... then to have to turn around a couple days later after accepting that there was nothing more but "friendship" to get slapped in the face again, and have him tell me he was done with me because i took life too seriously and he wanted to delete and erase everything and forget I ever existed. Why me? What do I do to people? Don't I deserve some kind of happiness. It's not fair. I'm flying home to Buffalo tomorrow afternoon, and for what? all the plans made with this "friend" is ruined because he doesn't want to see me ever again.

I need to forget about it all and just do me i guess. I want a relationship. I want someone to have an understanding of the way I live me life and I want them to care about me. I haven't had a serious relationship in over 3 years. Do i not deserve to be happy?

to make matters worse, I know I'm not as attractive as i once was, and my weight is the issue. Never have I gone out and not gotten hollar'd at. I got out of the car and these guys were there... talkin some mess, and I turned around and said "what" and they all said "not you, her" meaning my friend. I was really upset, because I've never ever experienced that in my life. It's depressing and after the night i've had i have literally spent all of my saturday crying and sleeping. I hate the point that I'm at in life. Nobody wants me, I'm stressed beyond belief, I'm not happy with the way I look... I'm not happy. I need to do something about it.... Nobody can change it but me... so it is what it is... I don't want to fly to Buffalo, but I will, and when I come back from spring break, I need to have some kind of plan to better myself. I'm just so hurt... it's all i think about- everything I'm not.

This sucks. I'm not like other girls. Every body takes advantage of that.

.Every time I see him.
Everyday he walks in...
with some fly blue suit and his cuff links are shining.
I feel like Alicia, and I just wanna sing "Baby, Baby, Baby"
He sets my soul on fire.
His shirt is pressed, and he smells so good,
but under the fragrance there's a touch of a familiar smell. I grin.
I won't even get into that.
His name spells t-r-o-u-b-l-e.
I keep my distance.
His skin is so beautiful...
So dark, so not like mine.
And as we sit there, he slides his hand over mine. It's so soft.
Not the hand of a hard working man. He's well kept.
As I pull my hand away he smiles that smile...
The smile of an Angel, Halo
The one that can't be resisted. The one with a glow.
I feel like Beyonce saying remember those walls I built
damn baby...they are tumbling down, but only I'm fighting it
I find myself lost in thought... wondering....

My time is up, my thoughts interrupted
I grab my things, get up from the desk and walk away...
I turn slightly, and glance back with a smile and continue to walk
No words spoken, but thoughts understood.


He follows me out, and yells "Yo B"
I ignore it, knowing good and well it's not for me.
I know the sound of his voice, when he leans over to whisper.
He yells again "Yo B.... Beyonce"
Only this time, I stopped to look
He says " I knew you knew I was talkin to you, Yo B, I'll be your Jay
if only you'll allow."
And now he's flowin some line like Jay and his girls, girls, girls

"I got this Indian squaw the day that I met her
Asked her what tribe she with, red dot or feather
She said all you need to know is I'm not a ho
And to get with me you better be Chief Lots-a-Dough"

I'm laughin and sayin negro please...
He says all I wanted to see was that smile
The one before was just a tease
He's got me wondering what could be.
In the back of my mind, I'm asking is leaving for me?
He says we could be like Bonnie and Clyde.
and I'm here when you decide.

But my minds made up, this chapter is over.

It's a New Month

I am so glad this is the last week of classes, and Friday starts spring break. BUT why is it that during this week professors load you up with homework, papers, and tests beyond belief? I just need to get through this week because Sunday.... I am outta here.

I'm going to be spending my Spring Break in Buffalo... but it's not like it'll be a big vacation. I have tons of stuff I need to do since I will be returning there for good this May. I'm going to be living with my grandparents at first, so I need to clean out the room I'll be staying in and take down the ugly wallpaper that's been there since the 60's lol and I need to paint and patch up a few things. Get some furniture moved in... and that way when I come home in May, I'll just have to worry about clothes, shoes, and everyday stuff. Hopefully it will only take me a day or two because I'd really like to spend the rest of the days doing NOTHING. My friends babyshower is also that week, so I'll have somethings to do there... but other than that... the way i see it, I will be sittin on my butt with my feet kicked up!

I've given up on this "diet" that I was on- it sucks. I always start off well, and then get caught up and stressed out with school, and other personal issues that my emotional release is through food, and forcing myself to workout is an understatement when it's something I hate doing. I just can't continue the motivational aspects to keep myself on the treadmill, and then I have the days where I just plain out do not want to! Ultimately- the only goal I can set for myself and focus on working on overall is to lose 15 pounds. I'd like to have the 15 pounds gone by graduation, but that is going to involve time and work... and I'm not so committed right now. I'm down about myself and my personal life... and I can't find any kind of pick me up.

I've made a fool of myself repeatedly and expressed my feelings toward a person and let him know that I really liked him... and in return he said he liked me, but just wanted to be friends. Nothing like being rejected... I try to stay optimistic like maybe his feelings might change because we get along really good and he flirts with me, and says cutesy things, but I think he's afraid of if he had to commit. I guess I'm too young to be tied down, but I'm too old to be runnin around with more than one guy, and quite frankly I find the sleeping around part in poor taste. I just don't do it. I guess I'm so down about it because no one ever wants to hear "lets just be friends" when they have feelings for the other person.... and based on my previous relationships I have a lot of self image issues so I feel like I'm too fat for him, or not pretty enough. He says I'm beautiful... but if I'm so beautiful, and such a great person... what keeps you from wanting to be with me? I don't know... I wish I understood. My experience in relationships is far and in between the average person. It takes a lot for me to commit, and it takes a lot for me to get up the nerve to express if I like someone and want to be MORE than just friends.... So, I'm really dying inside feeling like there's something wrong with me, and I'm pretty sure it's my weight... that keeps the guy wanting to only be friends. I'll never know. He said it's because he doesn't want a long distance relationship- and that I understand, but I'll be back in Buffalo in 2 months... and then He knows I'm coming home for my spring break and I was implying that I wanted to see him a lot and joking about hanging out everyday and he was just like "maybe we'll see" I don't know why I bother... I'm not what he wants. I guess my best bet is to move on... but after getting up the nerve to say I like you and have liked you, and am interested in seeing you/ dating you etc.... giving up and moving on seems like such failure. When I was a size 8... I was never turned down. I never had this problem... I didn't understand what it was like to be rejected. Why can't I get it together enough to go back to that world. I want to look good for the man that will love me, and I want to keep myself up for him, and I want him to be proud of what I look like, the person I am and my accomplishments.... I don't think this guy would me. Not in how I look now... but why can't i get myself together enough to do something about it???

What to do..... get passed this week and see what happens... I guess.

Thank Goodness for the weekend

It's been a little while since my last post. I've been super stressed in addition to pms'ing- I've been in major bitch mode, and I'm very disappointed with weightloss progress. It's going and getting no where. I'm 1.2 pounds lighter. Thats about all I can say. lol I hate working out. I have to force myself to do it... I guess I'm going to have to force myself to do more of it as well, because whatever I'm doing just isn't kicking me into weightloss mode. But then again, stress is overtaking.

I had a complete meltdown the other day....lol it's kind of funny now, but I was crying and etc. because I'm under a lot of pressure. This semester of 21 credit hours seems a lot harder for some reason. I was doing some paperwork for the college I am transferring to this summer, and became extremely overwhelmed with all of it, and the requirements I need to complete for dental school. In fact, because of all these additional prereq's. I may be set back a year longer than I intended. I can only hope for the best. I guess if I'm finished with all my schooling and a doctor of dentistry by the time I'm 30, then I guess I should consider myself as successful. Is a year really going to make that much of a difference in my life? I don't know, but ultimately I broke down because of all of these thoughts. I did a little research and found that on average, people don't complete dental school and start their career until around the age of 30. So I will just fall into the average category... I don't know. I am still stressed about it. I need a real job. I need to be able to make real money as well. lol I need to get a place of my own to call "home" I just feel like being 24 and living at home is getting to be too much. I know my parents want me at home, but I don't consider myself a child, and see all my friends that are 24 married with kids and buying homes, and I question myself on where I've gone wrong in my life? I have no serious relationship to even consider marriage. I have no children, I'm not even in graduate school yet. When will I have time for all these things?

I won't even be able to begin a family until I'm 30... It honestly makes me sad, because it's someting I want. I'm clearly not at any stage in life to be having children or a husband, but for some reason I feel like by the time I'm 30, its just too old to start that life. In reality, I won't even be starting that life at 30. At 30 I'll just be finishing school and getting started with my career. Maybe the kids and husband aren't apart of the picture for me....lol oh well. I made my choices and school was where I chose to go in life versuses working on relationships.... Guess I'm tired of being in a loveless relationship I call school!... well it's not even that. I love going to school because I know its going to get me where I want to be in life, however, i don't love the stress it puts on me, and it doesn't necessarily love me back... it doesn't comfort me when I'm sad or stressed or having a meltdown.... it's generally the cause....lol

I just wonder when my time for true happiness is going to come. Will I ever find a person that is going to love me, and respect me, and support me when I need them.... or am I going to have to continue to count on myself for everything I need. I have my family yes. But it's not the same as having a significant other. I dislike seeing that all my "friends" have the things I want- minus the education... they chose husbands and babies, and I chose education and money. So ultimately who's happier in the end... me or them?

I'm glad its the weekend, but I still have a lot of things to do. I also need to force myself to exercise today and tomorrow. I guess something is better than nothing!

Hope you all are well.

Snowed In Weekend.

So, This weekend pretty much sucked. I'm not complaining that I got a snow day on Friday and didn't have to go to any of my classes... in fact it was great, but friday afternoon we lost our cable and internet... then around 4pm we lost our power which wasn't restored until sometime around 10pm. We froze to death!! But I was thankful for it to come back on. Now it's Sunday, I had TONS of homework to do, but was not able to thanks to my cable/internet being out. The cable and my internet just came back on an hour ago. It's time for me to get to work...

I'm missing Mr. Text Message, but UGH!!! Forget it. He's not worth it!

I'm kind of in a bored, sad, bad mood. Nothing is going my way. I'm stressed with all the homework I need to do. I've been stuck in the house and all I've done is eat. This weightloss thing is not working for me. I need to find some kind of motivation. I was really motivated for about a week and then I completely lost it! oh well... hope you all had a good weekend.

Somewhat Accomplished

I've been snowed in all weekend. The streets/roads are still crappy, but my classes are only delayed until 11am. THANKS... lol still gives me enough time to drive to school for my test at 12. I was hoping for a snow day... I could've used an extra day this weekend. Oh well, Just make the best of it!

Anywho... I got 40 of my friend's baby shower invitations completed. I spent 2 days coming up with a design and then putting them together. I love them :) I still have another 45 to make, but now that I got it down to an art the rest will be a breeze. Everything is printed and made... now it's just for gluing everything together and letting them dry. Their made from Stampin' Up stamps and some ribbon from Michaels. Here's some pics.











I think their pretty cute. Simple, but cute. The most time consuming part was cutting all the paper & ribbons and fitting it where it needed to be fit not to mention, coloring in 85 carriages. LOL. But at least the complicated part is done. I should have them done by Monday or Tuesday then I can mail them off to the friend, and be done with it! I'm glad, that's one less thing I need to worry about. Now, I can go back to focusing on my school work! Before bed, I have 3 online quizzes to complete and then I need to study for my Learning and Motivation test. So That's what I'll be doing for the rest of the evening.

Hope everyone is enjoying the *snow* in their area. I love it!!! :)

You Make Me LAUGH!

Sometimes I feel like I live in a soap opera. Everyday it's something new, but fueled by old drama... now with the word OLD being there, you assume that it's past tense... and it is... lol It's in my past. Why can't it be in yours? As if, slandering my name all over places like Myspace, and facebook aren't bad enough... lets post "flows" on comments about me. Funny, Funny. I'm not addressing this publicly, I'm venting in my blog because... the least they know gets to me... the better off I am in the end! I wish that a certain someone would just leave it alone and let it be. We tried the relationship route, it didn't work. He cheated on me, and abused me mentally, physically, and emotionally. I tried to put all that behind me and let it go, so we tried the friend route, that only led to more problems... So JUST LET IT BE!!!

I may be a lot of things... I'm fine with you expressing your feelings in calling me a fat bitch, and its no secret, I'm overweight and insecure about my weight... Call me that, so be it... I may be crazy, sure, but you pushed me and provoked me to lash out irrationally. You thought my emotions were a game! But one thing I am not... is a Whore! It's funny how that could be said, when all I can say is if that isn't calling the kettle black... then I do not know what is. It's always a game, I'm always the "loser" the one below my opponent. I'm just so tired of this! Can't you just leave me alone. I tried so hard because I thought after years of what we had gone through together that we could be friends. I've sacrificed my own life, my family, my friends, and even my self respect to keep you happy... It's just not worth it! I can't take it. I learned you, over the years I learned you very well. But I'm so tired of things being so ONE sided. It's always your way, your story, your "truth" and I'm just the "dumb fat white bitch." I appreciate you going out and telling different guys to sleep with me, and posting my personal business and our past personal sex life in what you think is a mastermind "flow" on myspace. WHY? I have nothing to say about you.

I know you well enough, to know and admit that YES, when it comes to you, I made one mistake! You bad mouth me constantly, and hurt my feelings, and then you want to tell me that you have another female in your life (like it affects me) and she wants to beat my ass (why? because your telling her about me, and blatantly LYING to someone who DOES NOT EVEN KNOW ME) Then you want to tell me how it's sad that I'm so lonely and have no one in my life... and then you want to tell me that without a doubt I'm going to settle. I should've bit my tongue and let it go but in return, I did tell you "Well don't we all settle at some point- including your sister... she settled too and married an abusive controlling man" I should've just kept my mouth shut, but it's unfair- YOU can put me down, and put my family down... and the minute I say something in return about anyone you know... you're out to get me. I knew better. I did, but as some point enough is enough! YOU are NOT going to walk all over me anymore. I do not appreciate the things you have to say about me, and YOU let it be known about all the "skinny" bitches you cheated on me with. I was a fool, everyone who knows me and knows you, knows that I let you walk all over me. But that was then. Since then, I've done nothing, but try to take the high road. I try not to speak of you or about you. I try to forget that an "us" ever existed. You tell me I'm the one with the problem... but you do nothing but push and push and push, and provoke me until I do something about it, and the minute I do- you always want to call my parents and lie to them, tell them I'm pregnant with your baby (when you know they hate you for all the trouble you've caused) then you want to put me down to everyone!!! You bring nothing but turmoil to my life. You won't leave me alone, but constantly remind me that I'm not good enough for you, I'm not skinny enough for you and your 280 pound 6 foot self. I tried to be civil, I really did. You said you wanted to be friends and you wanted to meet out so we could talk, and I met you out- and you set me up, to get jumped by that girl! You stood there and watched her beat my ass, I won't even lie about that, but that was the last straw, you didn't care that I was bleeding from the beer bottle she broke and cut me with... infact u supplied it and laughed. So fine, let everyone know that too, as you already post and tell everyone about. I really hate you. I tried to forgive you, because I know you have problems of your own, that need to psychologically evaluated... But then you threatened my grandparents... and that hurt me more than any of the abuse you've ever done to me. You play mind games with me... to get me to talk to you, and be friends with you... out of FEAR that you'll start problems with my family. Please just let me go.... if you ever loved me at all... LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!

Now, I know you know "Mr. Text Message" - I know he's a mutual friend of ours, but how could you post such vulgar things about me on his Myspace... and what pisses me off even more... Mr. Text Message- HOW COULD YOU LEAVE THEM THERE WHEN I ASKED YOU TO REMOVE THEM!!!!!!!! AND YOU CALL YOURSELF MY FRIEND!!!! I'm throwing in the towel. Game over... you all win. I hope you sleep well at night. I hope you both enjoy hurting me, and publicly humiliating me. I appreciate everything. You've brought such clarity to my life.